Published on January 20, 2004 By O G San In Politics
The resilience of homophobia is striking, particularly in “traditional” societies like Northern Ireland. Many people here who would never dream of uttering a bad word about those of another race or religion gladly bandy around words like “poof” and “fag”. These terms are still considered acceptable insults for someone whose behaviour fails to live up to some standard of “masculinity”.

Homophobia is considered a harmless prejudice, just a bit of banter. It’s obvious that anti-semitism, bigotry and racism are all killers but there has never been an anti-gay pogrom or a homosexual holocaust. For this reason homophobia remains an acceptable prejudice.

However homophobia does kill. I’m not speaking here of the instances of “queer-bashing”, terrible as they are. Rather I’m referring to a hidden but much larger problem. A recent survey revealed that 30% of young gay people in Northern Ireland have attempted suicide. This is a statistic which truly merits the term “shocking”.

Northern Ireland is not an easy place to be young and gay. Bullying at schools is rife and parents tend to be less accepting of their children’s sexuality than parents elsewhere in the west. I’ve lived in Belfast most of my life but I can never recall seeing two men walking down the street hand in hand. To do so would lead to insults at best, violence at worst. In this little corner of Europe homosexuality is still something hidden, something shameful. It’s no wonder then that so many young gay people have so little self-worth that they don’t want to go on living

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on Jan 20, 2004
One of the things that hurts the homosexual agenda and that I think strengthens prejudice against you is the very phrase homophobia. By treating perceived ignorance as fear and disease, supporters of that agenda present the appearance of arrogance, assuming that they are superior, putting those who disagree on the defensive. I must also state that I think "traditional" societies, particularly those composed primarily of "Christians", make exactly the same mistake. Supporters of the "Christian" agenda also present the appearance of assuming that they are superior, putting those who disagree on the defensive. The very WORST way to sway someone to your point of view is to demonize them and to treat them as less than your equal.

Homosexuals should try to consider that many of those who condemn you do so out of fear. Not fear of you or your lifestyle, fear that if they can't be better than someone else then they'll have to face their own demons instead of taking comfort in not being guilty of your particular sin. Have pity on us for our foolishness, not anger, and you'll help us to realize that you are our neighbor, not our enemy, and that we've been commanded to love you either way.

As for Christ-followers, it is difficult to present an intellectually honest argument that homosexuality isn't a sin according to our scriptures, but it is no different than pride, envy, lust, adultery, murder, or anger, and who isn't guilty of at least one of those (per hour)? Christ came to be a friend of sinners, but somehow we have chosen to make ourselves enemies. Instead of belittling/bullying/hating homosexuals, the proper approach for a Christ-follower would seem to be to recognize that all of us have sinned, and the only appropriate attitude to have (not just show) towards any sinner (including yourself) is love. I think even Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. had it wrong... certainly our value should not be judged by the color of our skin, but even the perceived content of our character is not an appropriate tool for measuring someone's worth. A person's value should be measured by only one standard: the infinite love God has shown for them.
on Jan 20, 2004
How interesting. Don't recall actually saying that I was gay. I'm not. Still, I'm sure I've committed other sins that you could love me for I'm not talking about anybody's religion, I'm talking about prejudice against people because of their sexual orientation.

Perhaps my use of the word "disease" was counterproductive. Homophobia is not a disease in the literal sense, it is a choice. However it is based on ignorance and fear, I'm not retreating on that. Call me arrogant if you want.
on Jan 20, 2004
Homophobia...I used to be a homophobic. And a change only occurred when I realized what engeeke was talking about... that being a homosexual is not a character attribute, just a flaw of action. That doesn't mean I like guys flirting with me, but at least now I have good friends who are gay.

~Dan
on Jan 20, 2004
Given the Catholic presence in Ireland, I would think your people have wrestled with the rampant homosexuality amongst Priests for years. The media here speaks of it all the time, sometimes in unfair terms. Don't you know about the claims and such over there? It has got to be known. I have never understood gay-bashing myself, and do not feel threatened by it - homosexuality that is. I hold it against one no more than learning someone likes to be tied up in panties off-work. Consider the talk in the office though, and it starts to make more sense how it is a weakness to expose and people are attracted to pink skin by nature. They'd drive the person to 'suicide-type' thoughts to endure that secret at work too. Some choose to wear their sexuality on their sleave, as if needing the emotional validation of others, which makes them the cause of their own problem when some reject it. Oh crap, I forgot to leave the key for the hand-cuffs, got to go. Coming honey!
on Jan 20, 2004
I am sick and tired of people who disagree with homosexuality but do not judge other people who live that lifestyle being labeled homophobes. It seems like just being tolerant is not good enough. We should all agree that homosexuality "is normal" if we do not want to be labeled as homophobes. I do not believe homosexuality is normal. I do not see sexual orientation in the same way I see race, eye color, hair color, ect. I do not hate others who choose to live the homosexual lifestyle and I don't care that they are gay.
on Jan 21, 2004
Dan, I'm talking about homosexuality - consenting sex between two adults of the same gender not a priest forcing himself on a boy, that's called child abuse (as is a man molesting a girl). Protestants can be pretty damn good homophobes too.

Tech Cat, if I take you at your word then, no, you're not a homophobe. I'm not saying you have to march in a Gay Pride parade in order to not be a homophobe.